Repeating Questions

When the same question comes back for the tenth time, it is not because they aren't listening. The brain is no longer holding the answer long enough to feel settled. Each time they ask, it is the first time for them.

• Repetition often signals anxiety, not curiosity.
• The feeling behind the question matters more than the question itself.
• Short, calm answers work better than long explanations.
• Your patience is finite, that is human, not a flaw.

• "What time is it?" asked every few minutes.
• "When are we going home?", even when they are home.
• "Where is Mom?" about someone who has passed.
• Questions that get more urgent as the day goes on.

• Answer the feeling first: "You're safe. I'm right here."
• Keep the answer short and the same each time.
• Try a written note for common questions: "Dinner is at 6."
• Redirect gently, a snack, music, a short walk, a familiar object.