Aggression and Safety

After it passes, they often won't remember, but they will remember how it felt.

• Aggression usually peaks fast and passes within minutes.
• Arguing pours fuel on the fire.
• Your calm body teaches their body to calm.
• After it passes, they often won't remember, but they will remember how it felt.

• Raised voice, clenched fists, or pacing.
• Hitting, pushing, or grabbing during personal care.
• Accusations that feel out of nowhere.
• Sudden tears right after the anger.

• Step back to a safe distance. Keep your hands visible and low.
• Lower your voice. Speak slowly. Use fewer words.
• Don't argue the facts. Validate the feeling: "I see you. I'm here."
• Leave the room briefly if it's safe. Reset, then return gently.